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Date posted - March 14, 2013

I am often unsure what I should tip someone serving me.  When my husband and I dine at a restaurant with a waitress or waiter serving us we usually tip 15% unless the service is extraordinary then we tip 20%.  What should a barber or hairdresser be tipped, how about someone carrying out groceries or what about a waitress at  a serve yourself buffet?  Is tipping different in rural areas compared to an urban setting?

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29 Responses to “Tipping”

  1. Robert Keller says:

    If we are supposed to tip someone for carrying out groceries, then I owe them a lot of money.

  2. Lee Ann says:

    I think the grocery stores are frowning on any tipping of their carry out people. That is considered part of their job, and they make minimum wage, I’m sure. When I get my haircut, if its 22.00 or so, I just tell her to make it 25.00 on my debit card. I used to be a waitress for many years, and back then I made 1.73 an hour. but we had to declare tips only up to minimum wage, which meant some of our tips were not declared. But I can remember times when someone would have a celebration, keep a booth busy for hours, sometimes the rest of the night, and then they’d leave a tip of a dollar and their leftover change. When I could have made probably $20 on that booth. They were celebrating, but forgot to celebrate with the waitress. LOL. I always tip about 15%, and if the service was great and the waiter is chatty and personable, I’ll tip more.

    If wait staff got a decent salary, we could quit giving tips, and our meals would still be cheaper than a meal and a tip.

    • interested viewer says:

      Waitresses/waiters in the area(even larger cities) still only make two to three dollars an hour, we tip between 18 and 20%. At a buffet we leave $2.00/person at the table if the service is good, I always tip my hairdresser/barber 10 to 15%, and when staying for more then one night at a hotel we leave a tip of at least $1/night/person if our room was serviced well.

      • Ken says:

        I have a hard time with tipping for a haircut. Especially if the one cutting my hair is the owner of the shop. They are doing a job. They set the price for doing it. I don’t get tips for doing my job.

        • SPMS says:

          I will always tip for a haircut. Most salons do not pay an hourly wage…so the person cutting your hair is only making a % of your haircut and THAT IS IT :(

  3. jjjj says:

    If it’s cold and rainy tip your grocery carryout! Even a dollar is plenty

    • Richard Biggs says:

      I understand tipping a waiter or waitress making less than the minimum wage, but everyone else gets paid minimum, right? I never understood tipping someone for doing there job IF they are getting paid at least minimum wage.

      • Concerned Citizen says:

        I have no problem going to the kitchen of a restraint and tipping the chief/cook if the food was done very well. I do give the waitress the standard tax times 2 or 3 but the chief/cook is the one that made the meal what really was.

        • Concerned Citizen says:

          chef chef

        • Comment says:

          But that chef works for more than mininum wage and there job is to cook good food or they wouldnt have a job at that establishment! The tip you leave your waitress is just not based on your food quality, its on the service they gave you too!

      • Tim says:

        The way I understand it, this is one industry, (server) that is not required to be paid minimum wage. In some parts of the country, big cities, etc, some servers actually pays the employer to work at the restaraunt, hoping to make money with tips.

    • Tim says:

      My wife came from a bigger city and when she moved to Sheldon she would get groceries and always try to tip the carry out, some will take it others will not. Most waiters/waitresses along with the employer (not sure why)) consider it their salary. Not right, but it is common. My wife used to own a restaraunt, she was a server and the hostess, she always tells me even if they don’t do EVERYTHING right, they still are serving you, job description or not, leave a tip. Don’t insult the server with loose change below a buck. We will usually be upfront and tell the server if they have done their job, but do it with constructive critisicim, remember the old saying about if you tick off the server or cook, you may not know what is in your next meal, think about that.

  4. Waitress says:

    I am a waitress and us waitresses/waiters work for our tips. I don’t think all of you customers out there know how much a waitress makes a hour. We make well below minimum wage, example $3.00 and hour is what I make. We work for our tips cause that is our wage and we have to pay taxes on those tips too! So the next time you dine out think to yourself this girl or boy running around taking orders, serving food and getting everything you need deserves a 15%-25% tip because that is part of her wage! Yes the cooks/chefs make the food but they get paid above minimum wage! Thank you to every customer out there that supports us waitressess and waiters so we can support our families.

    • Customer says:

      Having been a waiter/waitress at one point in my life, i can understand what you are saying about $3/hr. plus tips. But to say you deserve a certain % tip is backwards. You provide a service as part of your job, and you will receive a tip that is reflective of the level of service you provide to your customers. If you want to make BIG tips tonight, go to work and earn them. For most of us customers, great service will result in a great tip just as below average service will result in a below average tip. If you arent making great tips, maybe it’s time to look in the mirror instead of complaining about the customers you are supposed to be serving.

      • Waitress says:

        Excuse me! First of all I was not complaining at all about customers and I do get great tips!!!!! The question of this 2 cents was how much should I tip someone for serving me and I answered the question with what a waitress or waiter would appreciate! You seem to be on the offensive side of this! Calm down! Dont say for most of us customers cause there are alot of customers out there that dont realize that waitresses or waiters make under minimum wage so they dont leave a tip because they think they are getting paid for the service already. Why dont you answer the question that is being asked and dont come down on someone that answered it in there opinion!!!!!!!

        • Ken says:

          How do we know which waiers/waitresses, bartenders, ect. get a low salary and depend on tips as income? Some get regular wage. Also, how do we know if our tips go to that said waitress and not to a pool that all the waitresses split?

          • B says:

            That’s was my problem with being a waitress, I would would be doing the work and some regulars would often leave me a larger tip but at the end of the night part of that tip went back to somebody who didn’t even make contact with them that evening. When you make less then minimum(most waiters/waitresses do) you rely on tips for everything! I was getting $2.75/hr AFTER A RAISE! It was awful. I understand what you are saying completely!

    • HA What? says:

      I have been known to leave a penny for a tip! Got taught that a long time ago when I was a bus boy by an old waitress. She told me “At least leave a penny just to be sure they know you did not forget!”
      Service has to be pretty bad before I do that but it seems to happen more and more. Too much time (Any) on the cell phones or talking with the other staff while my needs are not being met… Penny Tip!
      One of the guys I work with will give the server one minute after his glass is empty to refill it. If not… No Tip!
      To me a sure sign of hard work is a little “sweat on the brow” Don’t often see that on a server any more, When I do they get tipped well!

      • Comment says:

        And when the sweat drips, where does it fall?

      • Lee Ann says:

        Leaving a penny for a tip is the most insulting thing one can do. They are insinuating that your service is not worth more than that. Trust me, they do not figure that you were not forgotten. They will figure that you were the most insulting person they had at their tables that day. I only got a penny tip once, that was in a busy time when the Kitchen was behind and i couldn’t get the food out any faster, because it just wasn’t ready. So it wasn’t even my fault, however , there is nothing that makes one want to quit food service for a waitress than a penny tip. If you can’t afford a tip for a waitress that may be raising a family and depends on tips to make it through, don’t leave anything. Its much less insulting than leaving a penny.

        • HA What? says:

          Exactly my point! if they cant do any better, they need to find employment in some other industry!

        • Art says:

          A penny tip is an effective way of saying, “Look, you need to work on your hospitality skills.”

          But before you leave that penny tip, you need to make sure the problems were, in fact, the fault of the person getting the tip, and not due to circumstances beyond their control.

          If my food took forever to get there, I understand that the fault there is not that of the server. However, if there’s a problem, I expect some communication from the server, such as, “I’m sorry your order is taking a few extra minutes, can I refresh your drinks or get you a refill on your appetizers?” or “We seem to be having some difficulty getting your order out to you. How can I make this right?”

          Other times, it is 100% the server’s fault. If you ask for a refill that doesn’t come, or if you ask for extra butter napkins or something and it is forgotten. But even those things I normally overlook, especially if it’s busy.

          A snotty, aloof attitude — or complete neglect of the table for several minutes at a time when it’s not busy — that’s what makes me tip less.

          And I used to work in food service. There were times I knew I didn’t deserve a tip.

          It’s a conundrum. Employers should pay them enough so that the tip is just extra — and not part of what they need to make ends meet. That way the tip would be the extra they get because they did a good job — like it should be. But if they did that, we may not be able to afford to go out because everything would cost that much more. It’s a tough one.

      • Old Waitress says:

        Another old tipping trick: if you receive great service, leave your ones, fives, tens or twenties as the tip and then leave your single penny, HEADS UP on top of the bills — supposed to be the tipping signal to the waiter/waitress that you thought he/she did a great job.

    • Maggie says:

      It is true that employers can pay below the minimum wage to tipped employess but if the tips along with the wage does not equal minimum wage – the employer has to contribute the difference.

  5. Art says:

    OK, what do you guys think about AUTOMATIC tipping? For instance, sometimes if you have a large group, they’ll automatically add a gratuity to the bill. I think this is highly offensive. I am the guest. I will decide how much, if any, to tip. Through experience, I know not everyone feels that way, but many do, especially here in northwest Iowa. The time I was most offended by it was when we ate in the twin cities. It was just my family. I’m talking about a couple and their kids. Apparently it was one person over the limit, and that triggered their automatic gratuity. I understand if it’s a group of business people or something and people may forget to tip. But with a young family, I thought it was offensive. Thoughts?

  6. Robert Keller says:

    I can’t afford to tip, and that does not offend anyone as I don’t eat out because of it.

    • me says:

      Man, based on the title of this thread, I thought this was about the leaning tower of pisa, thought it had toppled from tipping too much!!

  7. Robert Keller says:

    My hairdresser/barber would refuse a tip, but she is my married girlfriend!

  8. me says:

    I think the problem around here is no one has a real sense of true customer service. The waiter or waitress will hardly see a table. And they get tipped a lower amount. I go to places like texas roadhouse or olive garden and think wow the sheldon service down right sucks. With the exception of 2 waitresses that we have here. When we get good service we have tipped as much as 35%. The waiter or waitress is there to be friendly. Make a good time for you. And get ur food and drinks instantly. If the kitchen is behind she should notify you and maybe have her supervisor notify u as well so its seen they care. But in small sheldon its a poor excuse saying the kitchen is behind when they dont have massive amounts of people. Do your job better then everyone else and you will get great tips. One of my family members makes 350 a night fridays and saturday nights cquse she does a awesome job.

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